Thatās a sad one.
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but Rosco youāre the homie
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Weāve had discussions about religion, politics, guns, and this goes off the rails? haha wha?
@anon3825968, people bump up against each others sensibilities all the timeā¦ you bumped @Satur9ās and he really bumped yours by declaring it. I think a simple response like this could have sufficed;
Lol wtf Rosco. Leave Comaās tits alone. Youāre being a creep.
Sorry you feel that way. If Como feels that way I will apologize to her.
Sensible, right?
Letās all be friends again?
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Yeah, totally. I see no irreconcilable issues here. Weāre all adults. This should be easy.
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Hereās a more lighthearted topic, today I learned black nitrile gloves will shamelessly fill with sweat and turn your fingers to raisins when worn for too long
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Iāve learned that too! And almost immediately after that I learned that I have a negative reaction to latex 
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Youāre not. I full-heartedly agree.
The problem with the exchange isnāt that it happened, but the context around it - this is an open forum. Even as someone whose lurked around enough to know that A.) rosco wasnāt being serious and B.) Coma doesnāt have a problem with his ājokesā, it still made me uncomfortable to read, mostly due in large part to the fact that this is how a lot of legitimate sexual harassment gets blown off (āI was just joking!ā, āI guess she just canāt take a jokeā, etc). Whether or not thatās what you intended, thatās what gets communicated, and even though itās not a ābig dealā because people might know the context around it, it can be extremely off-putting or even triggering for people who might just be coming into the community.
This isnāt a personal attack, just trying to share how what you say can be unintentionally harmful.
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But did you know they will also go up in flames if you accidentally touch nitric acid? 
I learned that when I was younger.
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Lmao I have to wear them at work for sanitary reasons and I just took one off and an ocean poured out of it
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I totally get that in a real-life-situation, which might be more threatening due to someone standing in front of you who might be more serious about that, or whom you might not know well, or whatever.
But I must admit, I just donāt get it in these circumstances here. How can one be sexually harassed in a moderated forum? If someone crosses a line here, I think Iām just gonna talk to Amal or Pilgrim here and get things sorted out. If thatās even necessary, for I can usually defend myself easily.
But what is the problem with (mostly) guys making a ājokeā (even if it is meant in a sexually offensive way), as long as they are never ever able to actually touch you? I canāt be sexually harassed by words, seriously, but that might just be me (Iāve been around on anonymous, non-regulated forums, so Iām used to a lot of thingsā¦). I can get angry, and I can answer pretty harsh, yeah, but I am definitely not in the role of a victim of sexual harassment - and to put myself in that role because of simple words would do victims of real-life-harassment no justice.
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Thatās really the crux of the issue. Sexually harassment isnāt quantified by fear of physical aggression for everyone - some people are just uncomfortable broaching that subject with people they donāt feel close with, and an environment of sexually charged language (even if it doesnāt bother you, the intended recipient of the ājokeā) can still fundamentally cause other people to be massively uncomfortable.
Itās along the same reason people say thereās a systemic problem of sexism in the tech sector - a male-dominated industry filled with people who often donāt know or understand social cues as well as they think has created an environment that is conducive to making non-males uncomfortable being a part of that industry, which perpetuates the cycle even further. Iāve yet to see personally any sort of weird/sexually charged power abuses that were based on a sense of physical domination, but Iāve seen plenty of people make really awkward, uncomfortable comments that Iāve been confided in that makes other non-males very uncomfortable and honestly unwelcome.
Itās not that all tech industry people are sexist or anything like the sort - most tech people Iāve worked with are onboard with trying to be inclusive and are all for a more diverse workplace, and Iām lucky to work on a team that is majority female (2/3rds women, Iām non-binary, and 2 men) where this isnāt really an issue. Itās just that itās often times that these people donāt understand how those offhanded comments contribute to the systemic problem they want to address.
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If it would help, I could inappropriately ask @anon3825968 to show us his PAā¦ 
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Mh, thatās actually one of the reasons I prefer to work with men - itās usually a lot more uncomplicated, usually more direct. I can take quite a verbal punch, got no problem with that, but I can be pretty direct, too, so this can be problematic with (over?-)sensitive people.
Thatās why, in this case here, Iām more on Roscoās āsideā (if there is something like a āsideā, dunno how to express it better), for itās just the way Iām used to.
Donāt know if we mean the same thing, but do you really think Rosco would pierce his dick??? 
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I wouldnāt put it past anyone in this community. Weāre all some weird fucks so I think PAs are far from the strangest. (Whoās the guy with an xEM in his cock?)
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I just know how he feels about bodymods, thatās why I would beā¦ surprised 
What? Who? Where?
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WOW, just playing catch up, that blew up quicklyā¦ anyway, the nitrile gloves comments were interesting.
It was an xSIID, he tried it for / as pearling. 
He couldnāt leave it alone long enough to heal. 
so removed it 
Rosco did allude to having a Prince Albert 
TALKING TO HIS MUM
Soooo, make your own mind up on that one.
As āweirdā as it sounds, I would like to see his skin tunnel (he knows what i am talking about) and ask him if it would fit an xSeries and whether he tried it or not.
Iām not even joking, nor do I think he would be offended with me asking.
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No no, there is one guy with a successful xEM penis install.
āMark | NameHeroā on discord.
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Hell, there are lots of nice silicone beads, rods, and other stuff for thatā¦ might be a lot more comfortable.
Maybe one could talk to Steve to make some out of glowing silicone - could be funny for that use case^^
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Ah, thanks. Now I know 
There was a guy in the discord who still currently has an xEM in there.
Just saw Yeka already said it. whoops
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