So, this is a derail thread, so I can vent a bit hereā¦
My dearest and me are going to a wedding in a few days, and itās one of those āworst case weddingsā - the husband is a close friend of mine, but itās a veeeery romantic wedding, on a beautiful castle, all people dressed in pastel colours (!) (yes, me too - I own exactly one non-black piece of clothing now), and all people very conservative - I was already told that my scarification might lead to some strange comments, and that several people there are totally against tattoos and the like.
Well, but like I said, the husband is a close friend, so I try to make everything as good as possible. And Iām currently making the card for the wedding, already put a nice poem in (by myself, not one of those standard onesā¦^^) and now decided to take a look at what else one could write there. The internet knows it allā¦^^
And now I read all those congratulations, and they are soooo incredibly boring and interchangeable - who on earth writes something like that?
I canāt help you with the poetry. But for the scarification and funny looks, I suggest you and your SO put on a horse costume:
Thatās the sort of shit me and my missus would got for for shits and giggles, for sure. And our friends would totally get onboard - otherwise they wouldnāt be our friends if they was all uptight now would they?
Better: if you guys do that, you could totally write an equestrian-themed poem on the wedding card to go with it Thatās something your friend would remember for years.
I just LOVE your ideas!
And the unicorn would even be pastel coloured, so it would totally go with the official dresscode!
Yeah, thatās the problem. The husband-to-be is a friend of mine - we were colleagues some years ago, and things developed.
His girl is nice, but totally not the kind of person I would befriend with - I like her, and sheās clever and all that, but she grew up like a little princess and still canāt really get along in the āreal worldā.
And all their friends and family are really conservative people - they would definitely not get onboard there. To be honest, the husband-to-be was especially interested in me because I was so totally different from everyone else he knew
Well we have helped with your dresscode dilemma, next is the moral decision.
He invited you
He knows you
He likes your ādifferenceā / non-confirity
It is as much his day as his Mrs.
I think you should just speak to him, tell him your thoughts and concerns, as him what HE would be happy withā¦if that doesnāt fit with your morals, then simply respectfully decline the inviteā¦
Since the wedding was postponed twice already (thanks to Covidā¦), I had to make that decision quite some time ago already - and to be honest, itās kinda okay for me. I accept the dresscode (well, itās one single day, and the dress itself - even if itās not black - is pretty^^), but the dress will obviously show my scars. If others donāt like that, itās their problem
I like him enough that I do some compromises (like I said - for one day!^^), and maybe it will be some sort of funny - like, watching ānormalā people, thatās a bit new for us
Iām just currently realizing that I am pretty untrained in all that social stuff. Letās see where that goes^^
Holyā¦
Pilgrim, where do you find all that stuff?
Iām literally having tears in my eyes now because of you!
edit:
Yeah, thatās basically my mindset. I donāt want to spoil their specialy day, so I can play along their dresscode and all that, itās not thaaat important for me.
But Iād not cover my beautiful scars, thatās for sure
Oh yes, thatās a cutie!
Funny enough, one of my planned festival outfits (if festivals are going to happen again) is pretty much holographic / pastel pink / pastel blue, and I seriously think how to add a bit of kink. Guess that will turn out interesting
Guess I can always do that while being there, depending on the general atmoshpere and my mood
Sounds interesting! Mind to share?
I love snow, though this would be a bit too early for me
Thankfully everything has been pretty much contacting all the venders and giving them the new date
Wedding 1.0 was supposed to be right when covid lockdowns started, we tried to wait as long as we could but 2 weeks before the writing was on the walls
Snow for me means a lot of extra work every day to keep the driveway clear. Normally I donāt mind the extra exercise, but Iām in no condition. I gotta find me a service guy to do it for us this year.
Thatās something your friend would remember for years.
