My point was that use of he/him is acceptable in the language and that
He, unless it was done maliciously. I generally try and refer to people by their name to avoid confusion. If I know they prefer certain pronouns I will use those. If I donāt know then I will not be at all upset if I make a mistake and am corrected. I would also hope that my making a mistake would be both corrected and not cause offence.
Mr Zwack. Mrs Zwack is my wife 
I have had a look in the settings, but limited results on my phone, Iāll check again when I am at a PC.
Those ātitleā settings are the user types (basic, regular,ā¦) So it might not be a good idea to add other options in there.
Yeah correct, they are called Trust levels, which would cause issues, but the canāt be changed or edited anyway, they are an un-editable discourse setting
Yeah, I know 
Was just kidding a bit - from several users here, I know the gender, and so Iāll always address you as he / him
But funny enough, I grew up with computers being a āthing for guys onlyā, so I assumed for a pretty long time that most people I meet in games or forums are male - even though I was already an exception to this. To be honest, some of the gender-related discussion we had here made me more aware of this topic - thanks to yāall for that! Even if I didnāt always agree with everything (and probably never will), and even though the tone was heated up sometimes
oh well, was worth a shot 
But rememberā¦
I mean, you can do whatever you want. There wonāt be any repercussions. Iām just saying from a damage control perspective if youāre trying to be empathetic towards people who have struggled and are sensitive to being misidentified, itās wiser to default to they. He/hims who get misidentified as they can just deal with it, fewer of them are going to be hurt. They/thems who get misidentified as he/him can be hurt by it based on their history. Same goes for She/her. If youāre putting in that work to be feminine and you get misidentified as he/him even online, it can hurt. Being misidentified as they/them is just like āwhatever they were being safeā.
It all comes down to your priorities when talking with others, and I prioritize their existential comfort over the minor inconvenience imposed on me for being aware. At a certain point your resistance to the behavioral changes that make others comfortable becomes malicious, because you have the knowledge but it comes across as belligerent denial.
At my age old habits can be hard to break. I do my best, but while language might change over time, my use of it is a bit more ingrained.
Thatās kinda what I mean - I do not care about anyoneās gender (except my own^^). I donāt care if someone identifies as male, female or anything in between or outside of that spectrum. So it is easiest for me to choose a pronoun that kinda ācovers it allā, unless I know better. And thatās what I like about the āthey / themā, itās some sort of āwhatever you feel likeā. Thatās a nice workaround, and I miss that in my native language
In German, every noun is male, neutral or female, and that leads to big troubles when gendering takes place - in English, an author, for example, is an author, no matter if male or female. In German, we have the male āAutorā and the female āAutorinā, and so, when talking about the plural of people who write books, we now write āAutor* innenā or āAutorInnenā or āAutor_innenā or anything like that, and while I totally get the point, many people complain that it makes reading texts a bit inconvenient. When talking, we say āAutor*Innenā with a noteable pause between the ārā and the following āIā - and while Iām getting used to it, it would be a lot easier if German wasnāt such a complex languageā¦
This! Very much this! Which is why if I do mislabel someone it is purely accidental and not because I am trying to cause you pain.
Yeah totally, I get it. Iām just saying you donāt have to try to cause pain, and if you do it accidentally for long enough then itās intentional. Why not get ahead of it.
I use this one. Itās the closest Iāve found. 
That is going to buffer, a lot unfortunately
but you can download or search online if you wantā¦
I have no source on what I am providing.
There was an article recently at my work about osteointegration prosthetic limbs, and I posed a question. I only removed a reference to one name.
Excerpt of your comment
How does the implant not get infected where it goes through the skin?
Their reply
Great question! This technology as mentioned above was first used in dental implants where you implant the part in the bone, close the gum, wait for the bone to grow into the implant, then open the gum and place the abutment and crown. These rarely get infected.
Similar concept here - place the osteointegration implant and close the skin, allow the bone to ingrow into the implant for 3-6 months, then place the abutment (part that goes thru the skin). The prosthetic is then attached to the abutment. By doing this in a 2 stage fashion the bone has ingrown into the implant which seals the canal/bone and protects it from any infection. It is also very important on how the plastic surgery team (Dr. Xxxxx here) reconstructs the soft tissues to the abutment to seal the region. Patients do intermittently get some cellulitis episodes that respond well to oral antibiotic courses. We all share this concern when we first read about this technology and it is amazing how well patients do and do not require further surgeries and extraordinarily rarely get deep infections.
Edit to add:
Fingernails do this too. Was considering the potential to run wires through the nail bed.
You know you are getting old when you realise that you could legally have great grandchildren.
Having said that I try not to use racist/sexist/ā¦ language
What about racey/sexy language?
Only with my wifeā¦ I know, Iām boring.
